Grieve an apology you’ve never received.
That’s the thing about me — I’ve worked all that out in therapy and workbooks. But its not just the grieving.
Nothing will feel better in your life as far as feelings/anxiety/hurt go than forgiving people who hurt you. Nothing. Did they deserve it? Maybe, maybe not. Maybe they didn’t live long enough to apologize or ask forgiveness. Maybe you’re no longer in contact with that person. Forgive them and let it go. It makes you so much lighter.
Drop the suitcases you’re carrying. Take off that backpack of hurt and pain and suffering and trauma and grieve that you never got and be as mad as you want to. Go somewhere and scream what you want to tell them. I wrote a letter to my person — cried and spoke out loud while writing and ripped it up after I finished.
And I forgave them. I’ve learned in my 47 ancient year’s that forgiveness is for you, not the person who harmed you. It lightens your load. It isn’t about them. And it’s not about turning the other cheek. You can forgive them and set boundaries. It feels great.
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