This goes with mental health as far as I’m concerned.
Girls are told from day one that they’re pretty. Put on this pretty dress. You want to look pretty, don’t you? You look so pretty today. Aren’t you pretty? And my favorite — you have such a pretty face — the BEST backhanded compliment I’ve ever heard.
So when I saw this a few years ago, I yelled a big FUCK YEAH!
I’ve worn lipstick and mascara since seventh grade. Then I started coloring in my brows, and used concealer, foundation, blush, and powder.
L’oreal. Maybelline. Max Factor. Coty. Revlon.
I wear foundation, powder, blush, and lipstick every day. For myself. Never for another person. I’m very, very pale. I have no color in my face. My eyebrows are blond. My lips are barely a tinge pink, kind of. I like the way I look with color on my face. I don’t care if anyone thinks I’m pretty, but I used to. Makeup has been for me for a long time.
The world would be a lot nicer if people stopped putting “pretty” as an expectation of girls and women. We don’t owe anyone that. Pay attention next time you hear someone on the news talk about a young woman that’s missing. Almost every time they’re called “pretty.” It’s weird. So weird.
If you’re a woman reading this, know that you don’t owe looking “pretty” to ANYONE. If you’re a man, stop expecting it. It’s not requirement to wear jewelry and false lashes to Target.
Last of all, pretty is subjective. My pretty may be your ghastly and vice versa. That’s why it’s irrelevant. Who cares? Pretty should be an internal thing anyway. But you can’t see that, so there’s nothing superficial to judge women on. Oh, wait…
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